Kick Assers, thank you for continuing to join me here in our AHI community. Last month we began the year by diving into the theme of delight. It was such a beautiful way to hit the reset button and start 2021 from a place of agency and empowerment. This month we are going to keep up that momentum going by surrounding ourselves with self-love. In this post I’ll be dropping a few links to help you increase your education, so please click on them because there is some really great information included. Self-love is a super popular term being thrown around in wellness circles these days. For many of us who just survived 2020, self-love can feel elusive, distrustful, or even complete bull. And I get it. 2020 was one of the hardest years I’ve survived and there were times I had to armor up in protective emotions just to get through some days. But the truth is, self love is not just about a bath you give yourself, the memes you surround yourself with, or a convenient justification for checking out.
The more I study, understand, and practice self-love , the greater my clarity becomes that self-love is all about the quality of relationship we have with ourselves. If we think of self-love as a constant energy in our lives, that exists weather we acknowledge it or not, we can begin to gauge the health of our connection to this energy. In other words, understanding that we can have poor or powerful self-love gives us agency in how we nurture and honor our relationship with ourselves. Brining awareness to our relationship with self-love is our first step towards healing and strengthening ourselves. I do this by checking in with self love in the following ways...
When I am in poor self-love this is how I show up: A Lack of internal self compassion A lack of gratitude Low / No delight Insatiate loneliness Poor relationships with myself and others
When I am in powerful self-love this is how I show up: Strong shame resilience Compassionate internal dialogue Delight and joy are easily accessible Consistent gratitude Loneliness that is manageable and passing Easily connected and present with others
Having a gauge to check where my self love ranks (poor to powerful) really helps to keep me accountable and aware. This gauge also gives me a tangible way to observe my feelings and actively make concrete choices to produce a more loving outcome for myself. As we dig into self-love, my hope is to give you a tangible understanding of what self-love is, and how you can personalize it into a practice. So check out the resources included in this post and begin your education and relationship with self-love.
Soft Skill extra credit: Use awareness to discover what the subject of self-love brings up in you? Does it make you excited? Uncomfortable? Anxious? Pay attention to that feeling and if you’re willing to be courageous, share your feelings in the comments we’d love to hear them! And welcome to a month of love, starting with loving ourselves. XOXO